Crazy Kitty Love

Confessions of a cat lady…..

Age

Age

Let’s call the new guy “26”, because that is how old he is. I am 37. Initially when he messaged me on the dating website saying that he was interested in me, I sent a very polite “thanks, but no thanks” back to him. I told him that he was so much younger than me and out of my age range. He continued to message me telling me how much he was interested in getting to know me. A week went by of messages. He was charming, so I agreed to meet for coffee. From the minute he walked in the door, I liked him. He was quirky, fun and talked really fast. He swears, like everyone else, that I am not 37. Most people peg me to be around 30. I’ll take it. I can be immature, wear funky mis-matched clothes, make inappropriate jokes and tend to be on the odd side. I can also act my age, if need be. I’ve seen him 3 times since and we are supposed to go to San Francisco on Friday to the zoo, which we both seem really excited about. I am not holding my breath. I’ve been screwed over so many times that I just wait for the crappy text about “needing more time” or “I’m not ready” or “you aren’t the one”. They always come. But eventually one person will stick. They won’t send that message and will have no intention on doing so. I want that so bad. I want to be wanted. I want someone to be around me as much as I enjoy being around them. Eventually, it will happen.  Until then, I will just enjoy this.  Meeting new people & having interesting stories to relay to my friends.  🙂

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Catfish- David Scott

Catfish- David Scott

if you haven’t seen the documentary Catfish,  then you must! It is a daters nightmare and I fear has become quite popular. They even made an MTV show after it. After doing some research 1 out of 10 internet dating profiles are FAKE. This is a scary thought. Who is out there?

For the past few days, a guy named David Scott has been messaging me from a dating site. He then asked for my yahoo messenger so that he could message me there. He is 35 and pretty cute. He lost his wife in a car crash two years prior and has two children living with their grandma. He says he is a contractor and travels a lot. His biggest and most unusual job was in Dubai where he stayed for 3 months. He lives in Seattle, Washington. When i explained to him that I was only looking for a local relationship, he insisted that we just get to know each. Something about him just wasn’t right. He sent more pictures to me of him since I said there was only two. He ended every sentence with “cutie” or “beautiful” though, which to me sent red flags that he wasn’t really using it properly and maybe English was a secondary language. Another red flag is that he said he is “over” his wife that had died. You don’t just get “over” something like that. Anyway, he kept saying how I brighten his days and blah blah blah. Honestly, I thought he was more annoying than anything. He asked for my phone number to text me and I declined because I just could not put my finger on what was wrong. After our online chat last night, I did a simple search. He is from Nigeria. SAME story he told me, he tells others in different variations. Basically after months or years of stringing someone along he eventually asks for money and scams the hell out of you. These women ACTUALLY gave him money. I would NEVER, EVER do that!
It is an interesting story and my first experience with a dating scammer. It is a crazy world out there!

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Turning the Other Cheek

Turning the Other Cheek

As I was browsing through profiles on my dating site, I stopped at one man in particular. Staring back at me was a husband of a girl that I went to high school with. We used to be friends in high school and now we are “facebook friends”. I couldn’t believe it. His profile said he was “separated” and there were current pictures of him on there. I immediately sent her best friend a message on facebook since I figured that she would take it better from her friend that talks to her on a regular. A few hours later, I received a message from her friend saying that the profile was “fake” and someone created it without him knowing. Now, I wasn’t born yesterday and I certainly know a lie/excuse when I hear one, but i said to myself that my job was done, I let a sister know and I went on with my business. A few days have passed and the girl who’s husband was online updated her face book status with a few very mean, choice words obviously pointed at me. So, I messaged her asking her. She played dumb, but then she told me something very interesting. She told me that her and a friend thought it was funny and created a “fake” profile for her husband awhile back. Hilarious, right?? I beg to differ. Do people realize that there are legitimate women and men on these sites trying to find relationships? I find it to be very childish and ridiculous to create a FAKE profile for anyone. I decided to delete her from facebook and I blocked her to boot. I don’t need negative people in my life. I also don’t need “friends” who think it is funny to mess with others. Shame on her.

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Company.

Company.

My ex and I are having dinner tonight and he also asked if it would be okay to crash on the couch for a night or so because his uncle is in town, who he does not get along with. I know that most people would not like this, but i feel differently. Yes, he is my ex, but we are very close. We are not intimate or anything like that, but we truly like each others company. I think we both enjoy confiding in the other and we are comfortable. I have been having some low moments this week in the dating scene, so it will be really nice to be able to hang with him. He really isn’t like a lot of my other ex’s. There is no sexual energy or anything, it is just a friendship that I enjoy.

I am going to the state fair all day tomorrow with my best friend which I am excited about too! I thought we would have the whole day together, but she just told me that her boyfriend is going to come too. I don’t really know him, so I guess it will be an opportunity to see how he is really like. I just hope that I end up not being a third wheel. I will try to post pictures for all to see!

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Mr. Wrong

Mr. Wrong

When I think about ever dating again (still not ready, but open to seeing what is out there), I think of all of my past boyfriends. A few were great, but most were wrong & truth be told, even the great ones had major flaws. I don’t know why I settle and accept certain traits about men that I do not care for. So this time around, I am being selfish and picky. Maybe I won’t find anyone, but I would rather be true to myself than to compromise my expectations. After all, I can do bad all by myself. So I have taken note of a few things that I will NOT accept & I will not even give you a second glance if you possess any of these things:

-If you are a smoker
-If you do drugs of any kind (been there, done that. I am not against marijuana use, but i do not want to be in a relationship with someone who partakes)
-You MUST have a job and live on your own. (in between jobs, going to school, living with family…I need a man that can stand on his own)
-If you are an excessive drinker you are not for me! Cocktails, yes! But if you have to get drunk every night or to feel comfortable  socially then move along.
-Excessive video game playing. I love video games too, but if you would rather sit for hours/days on end instead of going out with me, then I am not the one for you.
-If you do NOT want kids (i am not ready to close the door on the possibility just yet)
-If you do not ever want to be intimate
-If you do not believe in marriage, then you don’t believe in “us”.
-If you do not have a mode of transportation

I am worth it. I am a good catch. I have a good job, good family & a running car. I want these things in my partner and I don’t think it is too much to ask. I have accepted the fact that I could be single for a very long time looking for these things, but I don’t care. I need to feel equal to my partner and I won’t back down. 🙂

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The Calling Game

The Calling Game

I have talked to my ex every day since he moved out last Friday. We are friends and we miss each other so it makes sense. However, he keeps telling me that at some point he is going to “cut me off” for awhile so he can figure our “how” to just be friends with me. He broke up with me. In NO WAY did i want this. The whole thing makes no sense to me. I feel like I am just waiting for him on any day to decide it is the perfect day to start his “no contact” rule. He says this could last a few days/weeks or months and that when he is ready, he will contact me. I do not like this. I decided that I want him to miss me and maybe if I stop contacting him, he will see this. So, today is the first day that I have not texted him or called him. My guess is that by Day 2, he “should” wonder what happened to me.
I hate this.
I miss him.
I hate feeling like I am waiting for him to call.
My heart hurts.
I am just going to have to get over this.

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Taking It to the Streets

Taking It to the Streets

Do you ever feel like you will talk to just about anyone that is willing to listen to your problems? I do. I am not picky. I just want to relate to other people in most any way that I can. I am not looking to change or looking for pity or jealousy. I am human. I have problems. I have highs and lows. Who doesn’t? I also love to hear what others have to say. I can talk to just about anyone and I feel like I always have relatively good advice, even though I sometimes do not listen to the advice that I give. I have learned a lot talking to other people. Sometimes a simple conversation has even swayed my whole opinion on something that I thought I felt strongly about. I like the idea that this man had in the picture above. Maybe he is just like me. He wants to hear and to be heard.

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The “I Love” Game.

One of the sites that I follow on You tube are The Kloons. My boyfriend used to act locally with one of the guys in it (Mitch, the long haired guy). They typically post really fun videos and are currently on a internet icon game show. It is like american idol, but for internet video makers. I absolutely fell in love with the “i love” game. It is a feel good type of game that I think most anyone can play. My challenge for the week for myself is to make my own 1 minute video of the thing that I love that I will post here as soon as I am done. I challenge you all to try this as well! Post your link to my page, so I can see too!! Good Luck!

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