Crazy Kitty Love

Confessions of a cat lady…..

Happy Days

Chip & I

Disneyland makes me happy.  So, does Disney World…but I live in California, so I have easier access to the Mouse house in Anaheim.  My husband & I are annual pass holders so we go quite often….every two months or so.   I’ve just recently started collecting the headband ears & we also collect pins.   I feel like we really bonded over our love for Disney,  We both long to go there on most days and seem happy and in love on the days that we are there.  It is a very unique thing that is hard to describe.  I hear a lot of people complaining about the price increase and how it is for rich people.  We are not rich, but it is worth it for us to go.    I hope that we can always share the special love of Disney that we have together.

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I am a wife now

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With all of the excitement of my weight loss surgery on the horizon, I forgot to mention to my blog that I got married.   August 22, 2015 we drove up to Reno & made a commitment to each other.   We were just going to go alone, but my best friend and her boyfriend ending up coming too!   Dreams of a large wedding & our families being there were awesome…but the stress & the ticket price that went along with those dreams just weren’t worth it to me.   We have been together a little under two years & just felt that we wanted to do it as low key & as low priced as possible.  So, we did just that.  We laughed through the entire speech that came before our vows.  I think we are both nervous gigglers, so it was funny.

I am a wife now & I have a husband but I think it still hasn’t sank it quite yet.  It is very surreal as it seems like this is what i have wanted most of my life.  I think the strangest thing is my name change.  It is odd to go 39 years with an identity & then with minutes, a new identity is mine.   Signing my name looks like a toddler wrote it.   But overall, I love my husband and am glad that we decided to take this step.

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Engaged

engaged

Well,  I am engaged.   I guess you could say that a lot has happened in the two years since my last post.   I found love on the internet, we moved in together, & now i am engaged.  He also has two teenagers….that’s a whole new world in itself!   We have our ups and downs, but most of all I can’t imagine life without him.      We have 5 cats, a fish names Rupert, 2 teenagers and love.  What else could we want?     A house!  Yes, a house…. hopefully we can invest in one in the next few years and get away from apartment life.  That would be amazing!

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Chasing Love- updated

Chasing Love

I’ve been quiet lately, I know. I just figured that there will be times i blog and times i don’t. But overall, I tend to blog about love and broken hearts.

About 3 weeks ago, I met a new guy. He is great and we clicked almost immediately…however, I just wasn’t really attracted to him. After our first date, I told him that I wasn’t ready to kiss and wanted to take it slow. This is unusual for me. We texted a LOT day and night, but i still kept my distance a tad in saying anything too forward. After a few dates, we kissed and a little more, but still no sex. I kept my word that I wasn’t ready. He really liked me, I could tell and I started to become a lot more attracted to him. Every morning at 7:40, he sends me a good morning text. I really like this guy. He was married before, has a child, has lost a ton of weight, so I knew that he had life experiences that were good and that HE is a good person. Last week, sex just happened. A few days later, he got sick, then had a fight with his roomie and his daughter was coming in town. He is beyond stressed. Then 7:40 came and left with no text. Texts became less and less. A day has not gone by where we didn’t communicate, but it was still noticeably less. When he has his daughter all of his time is devoted to her, so I knew we wouldn’t really see each other over the weekend. So….last night we talked on the phone for awhile and i addressed all of my concerns. He says that he has a lot of his plate and is super stressed and that we had sex too soon and he is freaking out a bit. What does that EVEN mean?? I put up such a wall at first. I almost feel like I just can’t win when it comes to the whole sex thing. He is one of those people who shuts everyone out when he is stressed about stuff, so he said he isn’t quite sure when he would be ready to see me again. But then we also started talking about future plans and how i would meet his daughter one day. This is all so very confusing to me. I really like this guy now. It is funny how when i was aloof and unsure, he was chasing me like a maniac and the minute i had a change of heart to really let him in, he has backed away. This whole cat and mouse game is something that I’ve yet to master.

UPDATE-  Well, i just got the infamous ” I can only offer friendship at this time” text message.  What the fuck!?    Is this my CURSE?   SUCH a disappointment.

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For me.

For me.

There are very few times that I make large purchases, especially for myself. I bend over backwards to help my partners when i am in a relationship & if i am being honest, I should NEVER have to buy them something. But I have dated some needy men, most without jobs and whom take advantage of me. So, in this time of being single, I am trying to take care of me! I really have been wanting a new couch for awhile and I’ve been eyeing this one for quite some time. So, i bought it. I saved my money and walked in a purchased myself a couch and it FEELS GREAT! I had to order it, so i don’t exactly have it in my possession yet, but i will soon enough. Yay for me!

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Torn

Torn

It has been awhile since I have posted. I have been busy with life. Still dating, but nothing seems to be working out. There has been one from the beginning (remember the guy that changed my tire?) that has got a grip on me. We have such a spark and connection but he can’t offer anything more than a “thing” here and there. He really does need to get his shit together because we would be great together. I feel as if I have already fallen for him, yet i am TRYING to keep an open mind. Does “Friends with Benefits” ever end up working?? I dunno. Until someone else sweeps me off of my feet I will just try and have fun. I know what i really want deep down. But maybe i just want it too much. Maybe if i step back and just try to go with the flow for once things may work in my favor. Here is to hoping anyway!

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Age

Age

Let’s call the new guy “26”, because that is how old he is. I am 37. Initially when he messaged me on the dating website saying that he was interested in me, I sent a very polite “thanks, but no thanks” back to him. I told him that he was so much younger than me and out of my age range. He continued to message me telling me how much he was interested in getting to know me. A week went by of messages. He was charming, so I agreed to meet for coffee. From the minute he walked in the door, I liked him. He was quirky, fun and talked really fast. He swears, like everyone else, that I am not 37. Most people peg me to be around 30. I’ll take it. I can be immature, wear funky mis-matched clothes, make inappropriate jokes and tend to be on the odd side. I can also act my age, if need be. I’ve seen him 3 times since and we are supposed to go to San Francisco on Friday to the zoo, which we both seem really excited about. I am not holding my breath. I’ve been screwed over so many times that I just wait for the crappy text about “needing more time” or “I’m not ready” or “you aren’t the one”. They always come. But eventually one person will stick. They won’t send that message and will have no intention on doing so. I want that so bad. I want to be wanted. I want someone to be around me as much as I enjoy being around them. Eventually, it will happen.  Until then, I will just enjoy this.  Meeting new people & having interesting stories to relay to my friends.  🙂

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Feeling it. (updated)

Feeling it.

I had a date last weekend with someone that I met online and had been talking to on the phone. I had not met him in person yet. So, on Saturday I was less than 10 minutes away to meeting him and my tire blew on the freeway. I called him to let him know and surprisingly he asked me where I was and said he would be there in 15 minutes. 15 minutes later, he pulled up behind my car and that is when we met for the very first time. He gave me a hug, we said hello and he proceeded to change my tire. It was so awesome! Then, I followed him the rest of the way. Since then there has been another long date, constant texts and in general I am feeling really happy. I think he feels the same. I’ve been hurt so many times, that in the back of my mind, I know he can disappear at any moment never to be heard from again. I really hope he sticks around though.

UPDATE:   One day after this post and I already got the “I’m sorry.  i need time to get my shit together” text.  Unbelievable.  I know it was too good to be true.  I swear, these guys are artists in the rarest of forms!

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OCD

I can’t stop watching this video. You can FEEL his passion and it is amazing!!!

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Catfish- David Scott

Catfish- David Scott

if you haven’t seen the documentary Catfish,  then you must! It is a daters nightmare and I fear has become quite popular. They even made an MTV show after it. After doing some research 1 out of 10 internet dating profiles are FAKE. This is a scary thought. Who is out there?

For the past few days, a guy named David Scott has been messaging me from a dating site. He then asked for my yahoo messenger so that he could message me there. He is 35 and pretty cute. He lost his wife in a car crash two years prior and has two children living with their grandma. He says he is a contractor and travels a lot. His biggest and most unusual job was in Dubai where he stayed for 3 months. He lives in Seattle, Washington. When i explained to him that I was only looking for a local relationship, he insisted that we just get to know each. Something about him just wasn’t right. He sent more pictures to me of him since I said there was only two. He ended every sentence with “cutie” or “beautiful” though, which to me sent red flags that he wasn’t really using it properly and maybe English was a secondary language. Another red flag is that he said he is “over” his wife that had died. You don’t just get “over” something like that. Anyway, he kept saying how I brighten his days and blah blah blah. Honestly, I thought he was more annoying than anything. He asked for my phone number to text me and I declined because I just could not put my finger on what was wrong. After our online chat last night, I did a simple search. He is from Nigeria. SAME story he told me, he tells others in different variations. Basically after months or years of stringing someone along he eventually asks for money and scams the hell out of you. These women ACTUALLY gave him money. I would NEVER, EVER do that!
It is an interesting story and my first experience with a dating scammer. It is a crazy world out there!

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